Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Yard Sailing & Birthmothers

I can honestly say that I had a BLAST yard sailing this past Saturday!  For those of you who do not know, I love yard sales, flea markets, vintage shops, antiques and the in-between.  My mom came up this weekend and she, Lindsey and myself headed out on our sales adventure.  We first stopped at starbucks to get our go-go juice and then headed out to find the hidden treasures.  Some of the treasures were more hidden than others...but I did find some great things.  I got an awesome old camera, a fall wreath, some vintage material, some never-worn baby booties, a cute pair of baby overalls, a vintage salt & pepper set, a three-drawer side table and the greatest find.......a jenny lind high chair! I paid $5 for it!  My mom says it's exactly like the one that I had as a baby and I am very excited about it.  It looks just like this one but is painted white..
I haven't bought a lot of things by the way but who can turn down a $5 high chair in great condition??  NOT ME.  I have put it in storage for now but wanted to share my awesome find with you guys!

In addition to my yard sailing adventures, I have decided to start an herb garden this year.  I planted basil, lemon balm, rosemary and oregano in terra-cotta pots in my kitchen window...so cute.  I also planted tomatoes and bell pepper in two large pots on my front porch.  My grandmother and my cousin  both have green thumbs so I am hoping that they will rub off on me a little.  :)  Ill let you know how it all turns out!

Nathan and I went to our first class last night.  They brought in a adoption lawyer as the speaker and the class was very informative.  The law part was a little overwhelming for me but Nathan seemed to have a better handle on it.  The second part of the class we watched a video by birthmothers and discussed our book Dear Birthmother.  The book is about open adoption and dispelling some of the myths out there about adoption.  Additionally, the book is filled with letters from birthmothers to adoptive mothers, birthmothers to their children and vice-versa.  The one thing I have taken away from the book is that every woman (no matter what they say) loves the child they have decided to place in adoption.  If they didn't love them then they wouldn't have carried them.  There are plenty of options out there:  the morning-after pill, abortion, etc. and yet these women chose not only to carry their beautiful children but deny any selfish desires in order to give them a better life.  I think that is remarkable.  

Additionally, the book has us considering our level of openness...back in the day "closed" adoptions were really the only option.  I would understand if the birthmother requested a closed adoption but I think some level of openness is best.  I want to share pictures and letters if possible...I think it gives an opportunity for communication and honesty instead of assumptions.  I also think some level of openness gives opportunity for closer for everyone.  Most importantly, I care about our future child.  Having an explanation from their birthmother will help them understand that they weren't just discarded or not wanted but that someone cared immensely for them.  Going through their life with answers can only be beneficial...

Ultimately, I walked away last night knowing that this is a faith journey.  There are so many unknowns and so many things that I could sit around and worry or think about but the truth is that God already has our child picked out.  They may make their way into this world differently but He has given them to us to parent, love and raise.  I pray for that wonderful baby every day and that God continues to prepare us in this journey.  We have another class next Tuesday so I will bring you all up to speed then!  

Much love, 

Natalie (yard-sailing mother-to-be)